Tom Sobel 

Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist



50 min
I have many years experiencing working with clients online. Being LGBTQ+ you need a therapist who can relate directly to your life experiences, who knows how it feels to be gay and has experienced first-hand many of the issues confronting you.


Being in practice for 12 years, I have had the opportunity to help guide individuals along their pathways in their journeys. It has been a privilege to work with such a diverse range of people on both sides of the Atlantic. Having been raised in America, I find myself in a unique position of being able to offer American expats help in adjusting to the culture within the UK. It can be a trying time for spouses who follow their partners across the ocean to start a new life. Having personal and professional experience in this area, I offer insight into living and working in a new country, as well as counselling during the adjustment period.

Further, as an LGBTQ+ ally, I am able to help people who are not only struggling with their identity, but with family members who may need help with the changes they are dealing with as well. My therapy room offers clients a space to confide, explore and discuss their mental health. New ways of thinking, understanding and being, are all worked upon within sessions. It is through this process of growth an self-discovery that we begin to carve a new pathway for your adventures in life.

Choosing a therapist/counsellor is a very personal experience and it is really important that you feel comfortable with the person you choose. Being LGBTQ+ and looking to find a therapist can mean there are extra issues to consider. For instance, how important is it to you that your therapist is gay rather than gay-friendly? There are many gay-friendly or gay-affirmative counsellors, however sometimes it is important that you find a therapist who can relate directly to your life experiences - a therapist who knows how it feels to be gay and has experienced first-hand many of the issues confronting anyone gay. Therapy is an individual journey for each of us and though there are plenty of gay-affirmative or gay-friendly counsellors it is important that your therapist really understands your life experience.

A gay therapist will be comfortable with their own sexuality and so be able to discuss issues that are concerning you. As well as sexual orientation you should ask your therapist about their education, training and understanding of the issues that can face any LGBTQ+ client. Ask about their experience of dealing with issues such as self-esteem, sexuality, coming out, homophobia, self-destructive behaviours, family dynamics, depression, body issues, and more 'traditional' therapy issues such as relationships, dating, social skills and sex within an LGBTQ+ context. Finding the right therapist - who you can connect to - is vital for a positive outcome!

My training was in America and I have a Masters Degree in Counselling Psychology with more than 15 years experience. I'm a registered member of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (MBACP) and have worked in various settings including the NHS, higher education, and private practice. I understand our multicultural environment having practiced in a number of countries.


MA in Counselling Psychology





Schema therapy


Self-esteem, trauma, sex & sexuality, anxiety, depression, stress and minority stress


Panic disorder

Work issues

Cultural issues